Almost half of all marriages will end in divorce
Divorce (or the dissolution of marriage) is the final termination of a marital union, when a married couple cannot live prosperous life together. Separation and divorce for children can be a painful time. Divorce brings many changes that are difficult for a child to understand. Divorce also hurts Parents and can feel stressed and unloved. In this case it is hard for both the parents to meet the child’s need when power is hurt of divorce. This article gives a brief overview to divorced couple; what they can do to help their child feel loved, safe and part of a caring family.
Today almost half of all marriages will end in divorce. And statistics showed does not include those still lives together despite marital dissatisfaction. According to (Cherlin, 1981) average age for divorce is between 25 -34 and majority of divorces occur within the first 7 years of marital union.
Marriages are most at risk during transition to parenthood, before and immediately after the birth of a child.
A majority of couples report lack of a marital satisfaction with the birth of a child, specifically his mother. Lack of marital satisfaction ends its role in relations hence divorce.
The high rate of divorce leads to more children living in single parent families.
It is estimated that children born in the last 15 years, 40 to 50 percent of them will experience separation of their parents when they turn 16 years. 85-90 percent of children after a divorce lives with women head home stays with their mothers, and has some type of access their non-resident fathers. It is estimated that over 40 per cent of children stay one step before he/she reaches the age of 18. Stepfamilies divorce rate is higher (10% higher) than in the first marriages.
Divorce leads to a sharp decline in involvement with children usually in father. Divorce usually leads to a sharp decrease in father involvement with the children. One study found only 17% of fathers absent by divorce maintained regular contact with their children.
This is unfortunate but true that when a married couple is going through a divorce, the least amount of attentions is paid to children and is often the most affected. Children can be badly Shocked by divorce, especially if the divorce is a bad one, and / or if a long or an intense custody fight.
Some children react differently to divorce than other but all the children will be affected by divorce. Things that parents do and do not do will tremendous effect how a child affected
by the divorce. In addition, children's gender, age, psychological health, and Maturity all affect how a divorce will affect a child.
Divorce will not be easy for parents, but parents have a large adult who is (expected) specializes in handling skills. Children, on the other hand, are adult in this regard as not necessarily prepared. If you're going through divorce and have children, that way you need to
Divorce affects them should be your top priority.
The impact of divorce on children differs depending on their age, emotional maturity and mental capacity. Children experience many feelings and behavior when their parents separate. Parents need to understand these issues: Anger This is a normal behavior and can be self-directed, or one or both parents. This anger directly (except for angry parents), or homeless can (acting out at kindy, or custodial parents). Symptoms include offensive, appeal, neglect, sulky being. Abandonment Leaves the parents left the children think - children fear abandonment more than death. He fears that if a parent can leave them, then other parents may leave. Preschoolers often feel rejected and unloved and unlovable is likely fear. Is probably the most common reason for parents to their children when they are separated from each other that they do not love any more. But young children's ability to stop loving someone does not understand. Loss When a parent leaves, children feel the pain of loss. Their grief can appear as sadness, anger or fear. Self Blame/Guilt Most children think that the reason the divorce she was acquitted. There are two explanations for this: Children are the ego centred of is all that happens is because of them and circumstances are out of control when the child experiences believe they control the situation as a source of responsibilities. Maturity Issues Hyper maturity occurs when the child - usually the oldest - take care of household chores and responsibility for control of sister, brother , and even sometimes under the supervision of parent’s social life. Immaturity of intense fear or insecurity usually is experienced by young children. She/he reversed a first development stage - thumb sucking, demanding a bottle a 4 year go to bed. Dependency Needs The child wants to sleep in the parent’s bed, sleep disturbances, bed wetting, clingingness. Withdrawal of Affection When a child feels humiliated her father or mother that their confidence is withdrawn - they are not going to be hurt again!
Recent research indicates many parents are not aware how deeply their children suffer during a divorce. They can misread their child’s silence as being evidence their child has got over it, or that they are coping effectively. Child is hiding his feelings, even experts can be. But not all children are experts at masking his feelings. Some children - usually for children - absent from their parents is vocally expressed his sadness or anger.
A parent (usually mother) very much stress and anxiety, because of the way while she is afraid that her child is happy, the child's behaviour can also trigger failed marriage of old wounds resurfacing. It's hard to move on when your child is hurting.
The two aspects of the divorce case and when weighing out how divorce affects children positive aspects of negative aspect is generally agreed that parents place children in same family continuously adhere to abuse better than crisis. There, is however having very little evidence that support to this argument that divorce is an advantage to the children.